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Pause. Calm. Recollect.

When we open our minds to things, it's amazing what we are capable of receiving. I am grateful, though it may have been in a hard way, that I had to learn this lesson recently. Because it opened me up to an opportunity to recollect, calm, and pause.

These 3 things: recollect, calm, and pause - have become things that I have learned aren't just things to keep me silent. They aren't just things to prevent me from telling truths.

But what these things have taught me, are vital to my growth, and I need to look back at this post, so I can remind myself, and hold myself accountable.

1.) Pause - When I learned to pause, instead of immediately respond, I learned to process. A vital part of life - communication - relationships of any type. And pausing helped me to see things for what they truly were, not what I was always quickly rushing to see, or assume, or want to think was occurring or I was hearing.

2.) Calm - Because I have been able to pause and see things both past and present in a more awakened state, I have been able to calmly evaluate how perhaps I approach(ed) circumstances and situations. And to correct course where I could, and where I can.

I can't make everything perfect, and I learned that I had to stop apologizing for past mistakes as well. But I know that as long as I pause, and I can then proceed to respond, react, and proceed in a calm and aware state. That is true and fair for all.

3.)Recollect -Recollecting ourselves is hard after traumatic experiences. In the past, I consistently allowed traumatic experiences to spiral me, to a place that I didn't want to be. It was a constant up and down balance act - I would get on my feet again until the next traumatic event occurred and back on my feet I fell again.

This spiral and loop-to-loop cycle was happening because I wasn't capable of the first two steps: pausing, and being calm. When we live in a state of constant fight or flight, we aren't able to see things for that they are. We aren't able to trust people, including ourselves. When we can't trust others (or ourselves), this merely creates a life of recklessness and mindlessness.

Awareness helped me realize that was not only harming my own life, but those I was encountering. Which is why pausing and being able to be calm is absolutely essential. To see the truth; to understand 'is this logical?', and to move forward once you have answered those two.

Whitney - don't forget these.